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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is why I never try to help parents. I used to hold doors for people struggling with strollers, but it seems the "it takes a village" crowd only wants the village when it's convenient. So parents are invisible to me. [/quote]
Are you a parent?

It is never ever ever help to intervene in a tantrum. Never has a toddler who is dysregulated been soothed by a stranger. Use common sense and then join the village.[/quote]

I have seen it help multiple times in the grocery store.

Your "never ever ever" experience is not universal.[/quote]

True. And I am enjoying the irony of purported parenting experts who know exactly what works and what does not work to sooth a tantruming child, but lack the the wherewithal to avoid tantrums in the first place.

I had three kids in three years. The best advice for tantrums is planning. Whenever I thought my kids had another 15-20 minutes in them, that was the time to leave - no matter what.

Oh, and one time one my twins ran away in Target and I had to push the stroller around with the other two while he played an ever so amusing game of hide and seek. I was incredibly grateful to the kind older man who stepped in to help me track him down.[/quote]

This is the key. DC never had a meltdown in public because I didnt try to drag them around on my schedule of stuff to do. I always made sure they were fed and freshly woken from a nap, run around for a few hours and back home. I didnt take them out sick. I showed up to family gatherings after the woke up from their nap no matter what time it was supposed to have started. Everyone's lives were positively impacted by these decisions in that I wasnt out and about with a hungry, tired, unhappy kid. If you insist on taking the kids to Target at 9:30pm at night (I've seen this) and they haven't eaten yet and/or are exhausted then yeah, they're going to freak the hell out. [/quote]

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