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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My ex left over the summer. My 2 kids live with me and I make 85k.  I don’t get anything from him except he pays the mortgage on the house me and the kids live in.  He cheated on me for years and is still with the woman. My peace of mind with him being out of this house is worth more than any amount of money.  [/quote]

But you stayed in your house for which he pays mortgage, right? Your kids were not uprooted with him moving out? My life will have to change, and my son would be splitting time and possibly living in his birthplace home with his whore [/quote] Yes, that’s right.  My kids are older like your son so the uprooting thing didn’t bother me as much, I was willing to leave the house with my kids but this is the arrangement we worked out.  I know it’s tough, and I’m sorry. I just needed him away from me ASAP, I borderline hate him.  He also  moved into our basement prior to leaving but even with that I was struggling.  I worry about him introducing my kids to the other women too. I hate her. But I mostly have let it go, my kids are older and I have zero control over it. Good luck to you.[/quote]

How are your kids communicating with dad - did he agree to visitation, or they are old enough and just chose to spend all overnights with you? So basically you make 85K, plus he pays the mortgage for the house. Your income combined is probably about the same as what I would have if I was to move out, except I would need to rent an apartment. I would love to have your arrangement! And that's a problem for me, as I don't want my son to be uprooted. I would love to have the same arrangement as you, but my jerk keeps saying "you have to vacate premises by ...." As if my son has no relationship to me "vacating the premises". I also hate my soon to be ex, can't even see or talk to him. He is so full of himself, and called me names and emotionally abused me for years! We only communicate through lawyers and text/email.

To all telling me managing my anger: I am totally sane and calculative in my logics. I just don't feel I would be any better 1) vacating premises on his terms (e.g. unfavorable settlement that does no good except reducing my standard of living, even comparing to possible trial court outcome ) 2) seeing my son either live with step mom last 2 years of HS, or, to the opposite, seeing my son abandon his dad completely.

I feel like his whore should wait using my closets and splashing in my pool, not I should be moving out in a rush with my son. [/quote] They have cell phones and talk/text with their dad. There is no custody/visitation arrangement.  He basically works around their schedule as far as when they go to his house (one of my kids has school full time plus a job with varying hours).  Mostly they are at my house and sometimes he will come here to pop in for a quick visit with them.  I actually like it when they are both with him.  Gives me a break and some time to just sit and be alone.  Honestly, my kids don't know about any of our drama - the cheating and the emotional turmoil I've been through.  We've kept things very civil and we don't talk badly about each other, at least not in front of them. I'm not naive to think they know nothing, but they don't know the dirty/ugly.  My younger kid will even invite me to do things with them and I'll just say I'm busy or something.  I really do understand about the other woman, OP.  I see red when I think about the other woman, but mostly I just don't think about it and I don't ask any questions about it.  I'm just trying to focus on the things I do have control over.  It sucks, really but it got so much better when we were no longer living together.[/quote]

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