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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP. Yes, we are an active family - lots of trips, incl international travel, skiing, surfing, lots of theatre, after-school activities etc. - and that is a big factor in a decision against a third. However, I like at least a 3yr age gap so I can enjoy each child individually and give them my proper time and attention. I think that three kids under 3 or 4, even under 5, is a big blur in the young years to a lot of my friends, although with proper help they manage. I would hire help for the the youngest child. I feel like the older ones would need me more, and the needs of 1-4 yr olds can be met by any competent nanny (we are fortunate to have had one). I am even comfortable with leaving a young child with a nanny while we travel, because he/she will neither remember that, nor would they really miss out on active hiking/skiing/European trips, in which they cannot meaningfully participate. Lastly, DH and I are comfortable to divide and conquer as needed, since we do it with the 2 we've got anyway. [/quote]

We have 3 kids and this same type of lifestyle including the ski trips and surf trips. Anyway, when our third was a baby, I hired a nanny so that I could still take the older kids on daily outings and to their activities. We left her home with grandparents when we went on trips that weren’t a good match with a baby (skiing, Costa Rica, Disney, etc.). Other trips we brought her on like trips to the beach. Traveling with her became a lot easier once she potty trained, gave up the naps, and no longer needed a stroller. She’s been on skis since four.

All this to say, it is very doable if this is what you really want. Don’t listen to the people saying it is too hard to live an active life of frequent travel with three. We’ve been on 5 trips since the pandemic (safely).[/quote]

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