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[quote=Anonymous]Your second post sounds seriously smug, OP.

1- Don't pride yourself on divide-and-conquer working so well when you have three kids.

2 - There are advantages and disadvantages to ALL age spacings, and your dismissal of people with smaller age gaps really rubs me the wrong way.

3 - You pride yourself on your perfect 3 year gap yet also say that a nanny can care for every need a 1-4yo would have, so which is it? You're free to enjoy them due to your perfect age spacing or you outsource?

4 - Three kids add exponentially to the family dynamics. Think of it this way. It's not just the dynamic of all four people, the dynamics of each kid with each adult, the dynamic of two kids together. That multiplies because each subset of the family has its own dynamic. It's actually wonderful ... at times. It can also be challenging beyond belief.

I had three under four (now teens/tween) and wouldn't change a single thing about how much fun we had, how we only had to deal with a short period of diapers, how they are all approaching being in the same life stage, which is such a special part of having a sibling. Hearing them open up to each other about friends and teachers and their many common experiences ... heck, even hearing them discuss the characters and plot lines in their favorite show--it's an incredible gift to be raising kids so close in age.

But also? Whatever spacing and number that any family has is incredible--a miracle.

Honestly, you strike me more as a person who thinks there is one right way to do things and I don't think that perspective lends itself well to having 3+ kids. On the other hand, there is little I can think in the world that could teach that lesson more fully, so maybe it would be a good thing for your growth as a person. [/quote]

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