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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm kind of laughing because my MIL tried this.  I have no idea what she told people, but we decided the guest list and some of her friends weren't on it.  Knowing her as I do now she probably blamed it on me or my parents.

Op she also tried the "but they supported him growing up!" along with how disappointed they would be, etc.  She also offered to pay.

Apologize for speaking out of turn, and figure out how to back pedal.  AND... learn from this.  Figure out now that you don't get to run roughshod over any of their plans.[/quote]

To be fair, this is probably how MIL's wedding was so she assumed she would absolutely get to invite her friends who have known your DH forever. (This was the way it used to be for that generation, FYI. They got married in early 20s, so brides parents paid for the wedding, and the guest list mainly consisted of bride and grooms parents' friends and maybe about two dozen of the bride and grooms own friends. This was customary, as it was a party given by the parents of the bride to celebrate the new couple and to shower them with gifts to start their married life. And usually the gifts a young couple needed were china, silver, dishes for the home, cookware, stemware, towels, sheets, etc.) that were too expensive for the bride and grooms young-20s friends to afford.

Things have changed. But MIL may not realize this isn't what happens anymore. But maybe OP doesn't realize that's how it used to be, either. Communication is key.[/quote]

I agree that’s how it used to be. Kind of funny because our friends gave lovely gifts and parents friends were super cheap- like $50 gift cards. [/quote]

Yes, but also a difference in "yester-year" vs today. The 20 and 30-somethings are making bank AND they live in a pinterest/reality tv world where they think wedding gifts are supposed to be $200+ whereas a "decent" wedding gift used to be $50-100. Do you ever notice that the older generation gets stuck on what the average amount of a birthday or wedding gift should be? If it was $50 when they got married, they still think it's $50 Today![/quote]

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