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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, call Dad.  [b]Tell him child gets difficult after 2-3 hours of video games[/b].  (which at that age is normal).  Ask him to do 2-3 hours, take a break for a meal and another activity and then back to video games.  No video games until child at a minimum has eaten.  You need to talk to him, not us.  You also need to support Dad and reinforce that if child doesn't eat at Dad's then no meal at home.  And, if he doesn't behave with Dad there are consequences at your home.  The only way this will work is if you both work together.  If you don't have a history of working together, you need to extend yourself and find a way for your son's sake.  This is only going to get worse without firm limits when he gets older if you and Dad don't manage this now.  Dad needs to  feel like he can be a Dad and not this child's friend.  And, you need to allow him to do it and not sabotage him, if he's willing and able.[/quote]

Mom never said this. More controlling behavior is not going to fix anything. [/quote]

Mom implied it as she said that the child didn't want to stop video games.  It is very common at that age so yes, the child is being difficult.  Dad is caving in to child's behavior and Mom supports the behavior by fixing the situation (food) afterward.

So, she tells Dad to feed the kid (his choice how at dinner time) and both parents say eat now or there is no food later.  Really, its simple.  We do that with our similar age child.  The issue is both parents aren't parenting together, same rules, same expectations and Dad isn't really a dad but a friend or uncle kid occasionally visits.[/quote]

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