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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Someone’s a serious control freak.

Cannabis is an excellent and highly effective treatment for stress, anxiety and depression - things that cause men to drop dead of heart attacks or commit suicide. We’re in the middle of a once in a century pandemic, economic meltdown, and crisis in our democracy and we’re all distressed about the impact it is having on our children. Your husband is legally utilizing a medicinal herb to address his mental health and you aren’t articulating a single behavior that he’s engaging in that is detrimental to you or your children except the very fact that he’s utilizing a legal substance to address his mental health.

You sound like a seriously shitty wife. You and your ‘enraged’ buddy are the ones with a problem, not your husband. [/quote]

You sounds pretty angry yourself.

No one is required to tolerate drug use by their spouse.[/quote]

Is Advil okay? What about coffee? Soda? Is wine okay? All drugs.

Where, precisely, do you draw the line on this? [/quote]

Frequent (weekly) recreational drug and alcohol use.  [/quote]

Lol, 👌

That's way more puritanical than many people choose to live. [/quote]

PP, you are so angry and derogatory about this.  Perhaps you are a user that feels judged, but guess what?  Those of us who live with spouses who drink and use drugs on a weekly basis notice how it negatively impacts their ability to be an available spouse and parent.  Each of us gets to choose what we want to live with.  OP’s spouse may choose to get high daily.  She cannot control him, and she can’t make him stop.  But, neither can he control her decision about whether she stays in the marriage or not.

And you cannot bully people into tolerating daily drug use.  You may think it’s fine.  On balance, OP, may feel differently, and she is entirely within her rights to decide that she herself wants to live in a drug free environment with a drug free spouse and that she wants to create that environment for her kids. Or not.

As someone who’s been in abusive relationships, I have to say I’m so tired of the typical response..... “you think X is so bad?  Well you’re the problem, not me, X isn’t bad and everyone is doing it.”  Classic DARVO - deny, attack, reverse victim and offender - a specific form of gaslighting.[/quote]

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