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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m Pp- 
Just read your response to other poster.
You were not mistaken. People kept asking you for details,$$$$
Then you are accused of divulging too much!
The sad thing is that you and husband are fighting over who has to spend time with the kids.
It just is sad.  I don’t recall if u said how old they are but eventually they’ll know and feel they are a burden .
Does husband like being with the kids? Do you? 
No other advice except that maybe it’s time to lay down what you can accept.
He says he won’t take on more childcare or a full time job?
What about you? Maybe you need to say you won’t accept that?[/quote]

OP here. Thank you. I don't understand why so many are jumping down my throat. I am not a perfect person nor will I ever profess to be. 
I love being with my kids. I also need to remain employed and keep my stable job with excellent benefits.
I know that nothing is ever black and white, but...to state it again:

[quote]I am the only source of reliable, consistent income, and health insurance for my family, since 2017.
My kids stopped daycare due to the pandemic.
My husband lost 70% of his income due to job loss.
He has not pursued full time work.
He is unwilling to be a full time stay at home parent.
We split childcare, 50/50 or 60/40, depending on the week.
I buy 90% of groceries and cook/order dinner approx 5 nights a week.
I manage the mental load: out of diapers, milk, need a new car seat, purchase toys, books, etc. 
No one asked me if I was ok with this arrangement: going from making 35% of the household income, to making 60%, with no change in sight. 
Now add the temerity to tell me: "This schedule isn't working for me. I don't get enough extended breaks for myself."
He is young, able bodied, with advanced degrees. 
I feel like he treats me like a stay at home mom- I am the default parent. Except I am the only source of reliable, consistent income, health insurance, and retirement.

I have never shared any of this before. With anyone. I'm too ashamed. [/quote][/quote]

Damn. Hugs to you, OP. He is an ass.[/quote]

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