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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So your DH is a real douche bag, patriarchal crapload, who doesn't want to share money nor does he want to take care of kids.
How are you going to pay for child care now?
How much money do you all have? I am guessing money is tight as all these could be solved by money, if you had plenty of it.
But, you likely don't.
If you tell us you do have a ton of money, then, the answer is the same as we give to moms who are overworked, hire it all out. 
But, even if you have a ton of money, clearly both of you are not willing to split with your personal money due to this who pays what or who does what attitude.
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OP here. I'm researching childcare options today. 
We paid for it pre-pandemic thru a joint account....the joint account that he wants to take money out of for another expense.

I know for my sanity and the kids' benefit, outsourcing childcare needs to happen ASAP.

I know some PPs have said that I am posting repeatedly, and it's psycho, unhealthy, I have anger issues etc.
In a a way, this has become a journal for me. I've never sat down and laid out my feelings on this. I have tried to push it away to not have to face reality.

Who wants to admit that your spouse is holding himself out as an entrepeneur, but after doing daycare drop off, was going home to work out, watch tv, and lay around?

I am going to work on shifting my mindset. I have to change my outlook, for myself. My inclination is to view getting childcare as abdication of his responsibilities. Instead, I really have to try and view it as: reliable and fun days for the kids, uninterrupted work time for me, and hopefully a little of the edge taken off at home.[/quote]

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