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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My DD has a friend whose parents truly believe that when she comes here they are outside only. In the rain. Snow. Cold. They are not. The girls are 17/18. We are fine with having her inside because she and her family are super Covid safe.

Just saying you may think your amazing child is following your rules and they might not be.  She goes and sits outside on our porch right before they pick her up. If the mother asked me I’d tell her the truth but I’m not goin out if my way to tell her. [/quote]

Wow. You suck.

And this is why we don’t let our kids socialize with their friends right now. You can’t trust others to follow the rules.[/quote]

Why do I suck? Seriously- I thought about telling her mom but they are 17 and 18 years old. I did tell my DD that she ought to tell her friend to be more true truthful with her mom. But... hasn’t it always been my house, my rules? That’s how it goes, right? I think it’s on this girl to tell her parents that she is choosing to come indoors at our place. Or maybe your “you suck” is because I let her? In that case, I get it, I guess. But we are also very careful and hopefully not exposing this girl to anything.  I don’t know. I feel like people are making decisions based on risk assessments and the threat (or very real presence) of mental health issues.  At this point it is what it is. [/quote]

But you know that the mother has different expectations. Why would you not respect that? I bet you are the mom who lets them drink at your house too. Stop with the mental health issues. Unhappy is not a mental health issue. These kids have myriad ways in which they can interact. [/quote]

How old are your kids??  Let me guess, young teens that you drive everywhere.  Come back with your judgement when they're 18.

20 and 18. We have asked them to try not to make us sick and try not do things that would make other people sick. They both have 2-3 friends that they do see only outside. We have heaters, a fire pit and electric blankets we got at Costco. They sit out there for hours listening to music or watching movies on a tv we set up. I don’t think it is unreasonable to ask my children to take my health, my husband’s health and the well being of others into consideration. They can fight in a war, then can make their contribution to this effort. They are both involved in a variety of online activities. Why are people so afraid to ask anything of their kids?

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