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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Perspective from a stay at home mom: I feel for the teachers, but even with constant supervision, my kid screws around a lot during asynchronous time. I can stand there and tell him to do his work and he will just sit and find reasons to stall. His teachers praised his work a lot during the regular school year and there is just no way his behavior is just how he is as a student.

When people tell me I just need to parent him more, I have to laugh. There is no way I could parent him any more than I am doing now. I know it must be a nightmare for working parents. [/quote]

Working parent here and yes, this. My kid is 6. He tried so hard in the fall but at this point he screws around during synchronous AND asynchronous times. I am doing my best to keep him as attentive as i can, but I am also on my own work Zoom calls for most of the school day and cannot leave them every 5 minutes to stand over him saying "put that down, look at the screen, do what your teacher is saying" for 3 hours. Even when i do, some days it isn't that successful.

The only way i could "parent" him full time on the SCHOOL'S preferred schedule is to quit my job. If the minimum level of parenting you think is necessary involves one SAHP per household, you really, really have to rethink your expectations. That is absolutely unreasonable. I said in another thread that this is basically an argument for private school. [/quote]

This is a pandemic. Private schools are also shutting down for 14 days every time some one gets COVID, which is far more disruptive. It is a crapshoot and it is horrible.

My kids have great teachers for DL, but [b]I have no leisure time anymore because I have to be very involved in the education of the students. [/b] Still, I believe that some families will actually utilize this time and give an academic leg-up to their children.   We will see some students get exponentially ahead in academics.  This will really widen the achievement gap. [/quote]

Funny, I have no leisure time because I'm either doing my job or taking care of my kids while my husband does his job all day every weekday. We do reading and math practice with my 6 year old in ways he enjoys after school but I cannot "be involved" by making him sit still and do all the synchronous lessons and asynchronous apps and things he is supposed to do for virtual K because I AM WORKING. We're not talking about whether parents are educating their kids in some way, we're  talking about whether parents make sure their kids are compliant with the schedule and tasks laid out by the school. [/quote]

You had leisure time before the pandemic. Please tell me about it. Lol

For sure. I had leisure time for myself.  I was able to hit the gym, had time for my hobbies, I could volunteer my time in many charitable organizations.  Mostly because I had a cleaning lady who came thrice a week before the pandemic.  Sure, I had to manage everything else but I had help. Kids being at school allowed me to be able to figure out what enrichment my kids needed and I was able to teach them when they came back from school and also do the EC activities.  Now, I don't have that help and my kids and DH have a full remote schedule with work and school.  Which means that I now have to juggle the cooking, cleaning, laundry and the education of the kids too.

Having so much screen time is not good for the children but what choice do they have? My school age niece also comes over during the day to do DL. My sister is my neighbor and she is working remotely. I am keeping an eye on the kids and I also make sure that all the homework is done even though the teachers are not strict about the homework.  I also teach the kids painting, piano, arts and crafts in the evening and make sure that they do something fun like playing outdoors when it is not too cold, or even watching a movie etc., so it is like running a small school at home, even if it is family.  Plus making sure that the kids all play nicely together...that is hard.  Yes, I do not have leisure time at all now.  Once upon a time I used to have high standards in how my home was run because I had help. That is bye-bye now. I am just trying to make sure that the kids are ok and doing fine academically. [/quote]

yes because we are in a pandemic and people are dying we make sacrifices and don't get to do things the way we want to.

btw i work out every single day and haven't had an issue finding time - i don't consider that leisure (but everyone has their own preferences).  DH got me a peleton; we go running with the kids; hiking with the kids so no issues there. i even got a trainer for the first time - arms have never looked so good.

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