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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Perspective from a stay at home mom: I feel for the teachers, but even with constant supervision, my kid screws around a lot during asynchronous time. I can stand there and tell him to do his work and he will just sit and find reasons to stall. His teachers praised his work a lot during the regular school year and there is just no way his behavior is just how he is as a student.

When people tell me I just need to parent him more, I have to laugh. There is no way I could parent him any more than I am doing now. I know it must be a nightmare for working parents. [/quote]

Working parent here and yes, this. My kid is 6. He tried so hard in the fall but at this point he screws around during synchronous AND asynchronous times. I am doing my best to keep him as attentive as i can, but I am also on my own work Zoom calls for most of the school day and cannot leave them every 5 minutes to stand over him saying "put that down, look at the screen, do what your teacher is saying" for 3 hours. Even when i do, some days it isn't that successful.

The only way i could "parent" him full time on the SCHOOL'S preferred schedule is to quit my job. If the minimum level of parenting you think is necessary involves one SAHP per household, you really, really have to rethink your expectations. That is absolutely unreasonable. I said in another thread that this is basically an argument for private school. [/quote]

This is a pandemic. Private schools are also shutting down for 14 days every time some one gets COVID, which is far more disruptive. It is a crapshoot and it is horrible.

My kids have great teachers for DL, but [b]I have no leisure time anymore because I have to be very involved in the education of the students. [/b] Still, I believe that some families will actually utilize this time and give an academic leg-up to their children.   We will see some students get exponentially ahead in academics.  This will really widen the achievement gap. [/quote]

Funny, I have no leisure time because I'm either doing my job or taking care of my kids while my husband does his job all day every weekday. We do reading and math practice with my 6 year old in ways he enjoys after school but I cannot "be involved" by making him sit still and do all the synchronous lessons and asynchronous apps and things he is supposed to do for virtual K because I AM WORKING. We're not talking about whether parents are educating their kids in some way, we're  talking about whether parents make sure their kids are compliant with the schedule and tasks laid out by the school. [/quote]

You had leisure time before the pandemic. Please tell me about it. Lol

I will say I’m the queen of the leisure outfit [/quote]

Haha, you got me, I did not. Just annoyed at the implication that DL isn't working for my kindergartener because I'm misusing my copious leisure time, or whatever.

I don't even object to the idea that parents should be helping their kids learn outside of school. It's being told that if I am not literally able to standing over my kids making them try to focus while sitting alone in front of a screen, on a schedule that conflicts with my actual job that pays for our mortgage and food and health care, I am literally failing as a parent. THAT'S what gets me. DL not working for a kindergartener? Must just be a bad mom. No such thing as a structural issue, find an individual to blame so you don't have to worry about fixing anything on a larger level. [/quote]

No one is saying literally sit next to them but you need to help them log on, monitor what they are doing and make sure assignments are turned in (check daily).  You can put a desk or child near you and monitor that way.[/quote]

"Check daily" and "monitor quietly while sitting in the same room" are nowhere NEAR enough for a kindergartener who's rejecting DL. Nowhere near. You have to literally sit next to them and actively try to keep them on task all day. Which doesn't work if you are discussing a complex work issue at the same time. I have, actually, not left my child who is still working on reading fluency to figure out DL completely alone.[/quote]

The person you’re talking to clearly has never interacted with a child, much less taught one.
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