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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm staying together for the kids, but also for me.

The reality is, I want to see the kids every day, I want to see them every holiday, put them to bed at night and cuddle with them in the morning. Missing those moments is not something I'd choose to do. I don't want a "stepmother" I don't know raising my kids for part of the time (a total possibility if you divorce). I also like what a combined income affords us and consider that to be part of making my life content and comfortable.

Our kids see us all enjoying times together. We still laugh at each others jokes when they're funny, and enjoy a hug, cuddle or more when the mood strikes. We're friends and as long as there is peace, it is enough.

I don't know what will happen when the kids leave, but I'll cross that bridge when I get there.

Now, if we were mortal enemies shouting at each other every day that would be a different story, and of course not good for the kids to see. But the idea that that a marriage has to be all or nothing just isn't true. [/quote]

Men don't just sit around patiently for their platonic room mate's mood to strike. So have you met his girlfriend, or you prefer a DADT arrangement?[/quote]

Man here, chiming in on this. I am the mirror image of the PP. My wife and I get along, we sometimes cuddle, definitely laugh together, usually on the same page on life goals.

Our sex life is miserable and has been for years despite every effort I can make to rekindle. I am resigned to this at this point and it's clear that if we didn't have kids we would just go our own ways as the relationship has run it's course. But for now, being with my kids day in and day out is worth sacrificing my sex life. It doesn't mean this is forever, or that I wouldn't cheat if the opportunity presented (and they do from time to time). [/quote]
You will get there, PP. It's not even cheating: there can be no expectation of sexual fidelity in a non-sexual platonic relationship. 10 out of 10 men in these marriages get their sex elsewhere.[/quote]

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