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How old are the other two?

Hope you get really REAL responses. Usually people will convince you another kid will bring love & whatever mushy stuff.

Truth is kids suck.  The sheer amount of sacrifice needed for each is incredible.

The covid housebound situation has brought the reality that kids are Work and people need to consciously plan when having them.

Many kids are oops situations and some were conceived through miraculous feats.

At the end of the day weigh your pluses & minuses, and your mental health.

[b]A coworker told me, each additional kid takes resources from the preexisting ones. Even if $$$ is not a problem, there is the additional attention & mental, emotional support that needs to be divided further.[/b]

So plan accordingly, you already sound hesitant. Maybe leave things as they are.

You never know what will come but you definitely know the amount of work coming.

Good Luck.

Spoken as a parent :)

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Even if you have lots of help and lots of money, more kids mean that each child will have less of you. You are a finite resource for which there is no substitute. And while a child’s siblings might fill in the space left by less of you, there is no guarantee (and should be no expectation) that it will happen. Lots of kids in big families grow up lonely.

I have known a couple people who really could parent three or more kids and do it in a way where I don’t think those kids missed out. But the rest? I’m sure everyone will survive. And they have the money to compensate. But I would prefer not having to compensate for not being able to support my kid the way they deserve to be supported.[/quote]

I wouldn't have a third unless one parent stays home. Just being honest. There aren't enough hours in a day to work and give three kids attention. [/quote]

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