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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I've posted here before about a similar issue, but...

[b]I have been dating a man for almost 3 years.[/b] We were both previously married. I have children from my previous marriage, but he does not.

[b]Since the very beginning of our relationship[/b], my boyfriend has maintained contact and communication with his ex-wife. I had to have a discussion with him about a year into the relationship that it was not appropriate for them to continue to keep up for drinks and dinner several times a month. To this day, 3 years into it, they still text about daily life minutia. "I'm making salmon tonight. What should I make with it?" "Look at this that I picked up at the grocery store! Remember the great cheese incident of '05?!" I do not like it, and I've told my boyfriend that I find it disrespectful to me and inappropriate for them to still be having this kind of communication. He says he's known her for 20 year, and she's a friend. He also told me he's not willing to cease communication with her.

He cites my co-parenting communication with my ex-husband as reason enough that he should be able to talk to his ex. The communication I have with my ex-husband is 100% about co-parenting ("Does Sam need a math book for e-learning next week?" "Grandparents are coming into town next month. Can we switch weekends?") and I don't have a choice in it. His communication with her is 100% by choice, but he doesn't see the difference.

It is maddening to me the way they continue to communicate like they're dating, but I have asked many times for it to stop, and he says "Don't you still talk to ex-husband?" What can I do?[/quote]'

Oh my word, shut up already! You've been dating this guy for three years and he's been doing this the entire time and the entire time you've told him you want him to stop and he won't? Then you have your answer - what you can do is leave, he clearly isn't going to change. Why on earth do you think he will AFTER THREE YEARS? [/quote]

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