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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Telling children that their mother is a whore will never play out well in court. That was terrible advice. That's considered alienation and malicious parenting, and would definitely impact any custody arrangement. It's pretty obvious the person who suggested that has never been divorced and had to work out custody.

Ex-wife of a cheater.[/quote]

Come on, sister.  Nobody is saying they will call the mom a whore to the kids’ face, but if tweens/teens ask because they have a high suspicion (or even saw evidence themselves—which they don’t tell) it’s okay to say “mom had a boyfriend or was dating”.  This doesn’t change her love for you”. I’m sorry if the cheaters expect the betrayed spouse to look like the bad guy.  The kids know.  [/quote]

Definitely not your "sister," and I've been down this road. Disparaging the other parent to the children is a no-no when you're trying to sort out custody. It's viewed by the court as manipulation and it could cost you custody. I doubt if any attorney would advise a parent to tell the children of the other parent's affair. Mine didn't, neither did our custody mediator. My child was a teen. Been there, done all of this. [/quote]

Exactly.  I was trying to say that up-thread as well.  No one is saying that what OPs wife did is not reprehensible.  Of course, it is.  But involving the children is vindictive, and will not help the children in any possible way.  And as PP pointed out might backfire and cause OP custody time.  All of those PPs pointing out who children should know are just saying that out of anger.  They know that this is the only way to hurt the cheater now.[/quote]

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