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[quote=Anonymous]OP, in my marriage, I'm the one with the law school debt (my husband went to college and grad school for free). I did work a soul-crushing job in DC for years so I could pay that off and I hated it. But not once did I EVER resent my husband for not making more money (at the time, I made more than him, now he makes more than I do, but not a huge amount more). I told him I couldn't do that life anymore and we talked about how we could restructure our lives for me to be able to switch jobs. It meant a move out of DC, which we had wanted to do anyway, and now we both work at jobs we like (I actually like mine more than he likes his) and we both contribute financially and in all other ways to our family.

I feel for your wife, I do, because even though I never wanted to be a SAHM, my job crushed me and it was way harder after I had kids than it was before. I remember all the tears of that time. Thankfully we were able to find a path out together, but I may suggest that you and your wife go see a financial planner. It may be helpful to hear from a third party what your options are (and what your best choices would be), rather than to have it come from one of you. Just a thought.[/quote]

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