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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You don't sound like parent material OP. Most people are excited and look forward to having kids. If you view them as disruptive and difficult, they aren't for you.[b] If you like your life now, don't have kids[/b]. Your life will never be the same and that's the point. [/quote]

Ha ha! On the other hand, unhappy people make unhappy parents.  You should love your life and enjoy your life so that you do not have any regrets. You should have a great stong marriage because having kids will test your marriage. You should be a responsible person. You should work out your issues in therapy before you have a kid. Then you should go and have a kid because you both will not be able to feel this kind of love for anyone else in your life.

My neighbor's DD married and then bought a house close to her parents house.  Smart girl.

People have children all the time - in good and bad circumstances.  If you want things to be less painful, you have to simplify your life, have a plan, have lots of help, be ok financially.  It is perfectly ok to live in a rented apartment and not have the burden of home maintainence of a debt.  Don't follow what people are telling you - it is your child and you should bond the way you find it nurturing.

I nursed, I did not let the baby CIO, I co-slept, I rocked the baby when the baby needed to be rocked and I held my baby when the baby needed to be held.  DH and I, took help from my family, my ILs, my parents and friends.  We simplified our lives  and did not take on anything that we could not handle  or which would take time and energy away from the baby. No to the swimming pool, no to the pets, no to the  two-seater car.  DH and I also worked staggered shifts so that we could be with the baby. We worked so that we could have a  family - our child was not an inconvenience for us, and not an afterthought.  Our  priority was always our family and we have been very successful in parenting as well in our own lives too.

If you have a kid, then love and enjoy the kid.  That is the whole point.[/quote]

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