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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]12:52. I know. You are totally correct, but like your son, it's not easy to disengage from a relationship especially with children. You may feel responsible for your parenting and I [b]feel responsible for my choice to marry him and have kids with him[/b]. As long as he's willing to work, I'm willing to work on it too too, but I'm glad I had this conversation to sort out why it was so violating and it seemed to work since he apologized and is making amends. The other issue I didn't disclose is that with his friend, he never mentioned his own issues and what havoc he brought to the relationship like the cheating. That's a sure sign to me that a person isn't having a productive conversation if all they can do is share someone else's experience and emotion and not their own. I wish you luck with your DS. All the sharing online has pressed boundaries more than where we were a decade or so ago.[/quote]

I am 12:52.  I had children with my cheater and felt compelled to stay and work things out.  But, at a certain point it was clear that cheating and dishonesty were never going to stop and I had to consider what kind of lesson I was teaching my children if I stayed in an emotionally abusive relationship.  (Cheating is definitely a form of emotional abuse.)

15 years later, in hindsight, I can say that what I did to try to maintain the marital relationship and the co-parenting relationship was actually damaging to my kids.  Because the dishonesty And taking advantage continues in many other forms in co-parenting.  In retrospect, I can see now that By maintaining even a co-parenting relationship with him what I actually did was model that abuse was normal.  I see my son in particular perpetuating that in his own relationships.  The kids and I would have been much better off cutting ties drastically and for me to parallel parent only. [/quote]

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