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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Honestly, I wouldn’t date a woman making much less than me. DW and I have always roughly made the same amount of money, plus or minus $10-20K. This year I think we will be exactly even, within $1000.

Never had an interest in dating a woman who wanted to leave the workforce. [/quote]

I think that a lot of men feel a burden of a societal expectation to allocate a significant amount of financial provision to women. I don’t think there is a wrong answer in establishing roles with your spouse in your marriage and family either way. Your dating approach was sensible in that regard. Bring something to the table besides your appetite! I say this as someone who has been happily provided for, and a happy sole provider. [/quote]

Right, I completely agree with you. If my DW had to leave the workforce due to illness, I would happily provide and support our family. Similarly, I encouraged her to take maximum leave when our baby was born. But I’m not interested in being the “breadwinner” and having the SAH spouse who is child rearing all day. That’s not the life I wanted, nor is it the life DW wanted (she’s a busy executive for a large company). I was pretty clear about this when I was dating. Further, I really didn’t continue seeing women if it was obvious that they didn’t have solid career ambitions.

Like you said, bring something more to the table than an appetite. A lot of the couples we socialize with are similarly minded, with women who are in management roles in companies, govt, and nonprofits.

I should add: I don’t look down on SAHPs. We are working from home and watching the kid FT....it’s exhausting. When I was home on parental leave, my day was busy busy busy. It’s a FT job. But I just prefer a partner who is career-driven, than kid-driven. It’s a preference than people should consciously think about when dating. [/quote]

So you prefer your kids be raised by daycare rather than your wife? What a dad![/quote]

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