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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If OP were a woman the freezer would be stocked weekly with casseroles for her husband to heat each night. But since he’s a a man he just wants to make demands and not assign work to himself. SMH. [/quote]

Certainly effing NOT. I am a woman and if I were working full time with a SAH husband cooking would [u]absolutely[/u] be his responsibility, and I have a DH who doesn't cook. He would have to learn. As it is, we both work and I cook because it is how I relax, but if he were home all day? No way. I don't get people jumping on the OP, if you don't work, cooking is part of the job description. It doesn't have to be fancy, but it takes no time to make a sheet pan dinner, throw some meat, some veg, and potatoes on a pan. Boil water for pasta and some more to steam some veggies. It might not be the best, but it can be nutritious and is perfectly fine for kids. Living 'Fast Food Nation' in your own home is ridiculous. Of course, he should help some in some way (maybe ordering groceries delivered?) but the SAH person needs to do the bulk of the cooking, at least for the kids. [/quote]

First of all, all couples have different divisions of labor. Second, OP’s spouse’s job isn’t cooking. It’s making sure her kids get fed. And she is doing that.

But perhaps the most important issue is that OP wants her spouse to change and instead of working with the reality of having a spouse who doesn’t want to cook, he’s going to keep trying things that don’t work to make her change. It’s not going to work and is just going to piss both of them off, and the kids will suffer.

OP, learn to change the things you can and accept the things you can’t. [/quote]

I agree there are different divisions of labor, but "making sure the kids are fed" which she is doing, is in a way that is deleterious to their health and hers. I think the "getting fed" comes with a caveat of "in a decently healthy way." Technically, she could only hit up 7/11 and bottle feed the kids some coke with a side of cut up hot dogs, Twizzlers, and nachos with fake cheese, but I think most people would agree that is not a great approach for 3 meals a day, no? Pretty Honey Boo Boo and all the obesity and health issues that follow. So yeah, she needs to find an alternative and she is isn't pulling 75 hr weeks so this seems like a reasonable ask. Hell, she could basically stock up on Trader Joes frozen food to defrost in the microwave and do a better job than Burger King multiple times a week. There have been many, many easy meal suggestions.

I do agree things like a cookbook won't help someone who has no interest in cooking. Something like the suggested Hello Fresh that he starts initially and then transitions to her responsibility may help. I am an experienced cook, but both the planning and then the cooking can be overwhelming. These subscriptions at least eliminate that.

If nothing else, for the kids, she can learn to throw some pre-cooked chicken, cut up vegetables, and fruit at them. Boring but still better than fast food crap. [/quote]

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