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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP's dd is now 22 years old. Mom was a student. It is unlikely that her dd is a product of the civil wars in Yugoslavia in Bosnia and Croatia. Could be of the one in Kosovo in 1999. Bio mom is married now. Here are my two cents. Mom probably thinks a lot about her child that she gave up for adoption. Mom would probably like to see her daughter. Grandparents would be thrilled to see their granddaughter. This goes for Croats, Serbs, and Bosniaks(Muslims). I do not know about Kosovar Albanians, they are still very, very old fashioned. If bio mom's DH is around 45 now, he would not be old fashioned and abusive as if he was 60. Serbs, Croats, and Bosniaks are very, very welcoming people. They would consider op's dd as their own family.
It is the husband that would cause concern.
I am a Serb. If your dd showed up at my door, and I was her grandmother, she would be welcomed with open arms and with a feast. What some hypothetical son in law might do, that I do not know. But, if he was not a nice person I would be worried about my DD, the bio mom.
Good luck.[/quote]

My old fashioned Croatian mom would not be welcoming. She would only be concerned about preserving the family image.[/quote]

Well... you do know the stereotypes about Serbs and Croats? No?[/quote]

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