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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have [b]two and we both have intense jobs but are almost completely in control of our schedules. [/b]If you are not in a flexible schedule situation, then even one kid can be a lot.

Once you have kids, though, you truly gain a new perspective. I love my paid job but nothing compares to seeing your own kids grow, learn, develop a sense of humor, discover the world.[/quote]

This is also our situation. I contemplated a third, but I don’t think it is right for our family. Others have mentioned family help — we have none, no family whatsoever nearby. Most dual working couples I know who have three and are not headed for a divorce or nervous breakdown (usually the mom) have helpful family in town.

The main thing for me is that I want to be present with the two I have. People have different visions of parenting and family life. For me, I love one on one time with my kids where I can listen to them, take long walks, read with them, whatever. I like the dynamic with two at the dinner table — it’s lively and fun, but doesn’t get too harried and frantic. I like that they’ll be able to do any activities they want and one of us will be there to support them. Already with two and a career I feel like they both want more of me than I have at certain times. Another child would just mean everyone got a lot less. I do think most kids need and want to feel special, like they are the center of your world, for quite some time..

If you’re the kind of person who thrives on noise and chaos and a plate that is always overflowing, then I would say you could make three work. That usually means having an au pair or other live in help for several years, so you also have to not mind that. If I didn’t have a job I would go for three and that would be my max. But as my husband pointed out, I like working and it’s good for them to have a happy mom

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