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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A lot of times the kids I see who are using alcohol or drugs or socially precocious are that way because of physical, sexual or emotional abuse in the household.  However I have had experiences with one daughters' (former) friend where there was no physical abuse but it was the mom who was really fostering the early interest in boys and sex.

I remember walking over one day to pick up my daughter from a birthday party when the kids were in 4th grade.  The mom engaged me in a side conversation and talked nonstop about which boys there would make good boyfriends for the girls.  Her comments ranged from socioeconomic comparisons to listings of physical attributes of the boys, all in a non-stop gushing kind of way.  It was eye-opening to listen to her.  After that conversation we began to disengage our daughter from the friendship.  The girls attended the same middle and high schools so we continued to encounter the mom and her daughter for another 8 years.  It was patently obvious that the girl had a lot of pressure from her mom to have a boyfriend and to be "popular."  It was pretty sad to watch a girl who was very smart diminish herself to her mom's level in an effort to conform to her mom's expectations.  Interestingly it wasn't necessarily a social class issue of a mom who "married up" and wanted to see her daughter do the same.  The mom came from a well-known and very wealthy local family.  I think it is what she learned and now what she has trained her daughter to be.  It is pretty sad.[/quote]

:shock:

We have jumped the shark.[/quote]

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