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[quote=Anonymous]I hemorrhaged when my first was born and they kept checking my blood-count at the hospital. The baby was also slightly premature. So by the time we went home I had a few nights of no sleep, my husband not much more. We were supposed to feed her every two hours around the clock but she would nurse. So every two hours I would try to nurse her, pump, and then either feed her or have my husband feed her. At that point we were feeding her via syringe.  I was getting about 45 mins of sleep at a time, less if I were feeding her. My parents happened to be in town for her birth and did very unhelpful things (like put all our laundry in the washing machine but then leave, so we had to walk down the hall to the shared laundry, change and fold it). This when I had a lot of stifles and no sleep. By contrast my mother in law came and slept on our sofa for 5 nights. She folded laundry, made meals, took nighttime feedings (so I could pump and go back to sleep) etc. I truly don’t know how I would have managed as we had reached our breaking point already.

For our 2nd she came for a full two weeks. I don’t know if this is allowed for you, but I had the brilliant idea of my husband delaying his paternity leave (I had no paid maternity leave). So, she was born on a Weds, we came home Friday, mother in law arrived Sunday. DH took Monday and Tuesday off from work (a/l) as he was required to use paternity leave in full weeks. Then he returned to work while I had the help at home. It was really great - I could sleep more and 2nd was great at nursing. By the time she left and DH took time off I’d really healed enough to be out and about and our daughter was that much more alert. [/quote]

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