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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Many responses on this page either think women in their 20s and early 30s shouldn't have babies because they are too young, immature, and need to focus on their careers, or, women who have children in their mid to late 30s, and 40s are grandmas. We can never win. [/quote]

Haven't read the thread, but will say that both OP's initial question and your response seem to lump all women into one homogeneous group.  The problem is that women are a diverse subgroup that have their own lives, desires, drives, and goals.

Some women want to enjoy their youth, enjoy living life and learning or experiencing life while they are young enough to truly enjoy it.  Learning to ski, hike mountains, surf, go white water rafting, etc are better when you are in your 20's and 30's than when you are in your 40's and 50's.   It's easier to learn when younger and continue education continuously high school, college, post-graduate school (med, law, business, grad), then get your career launched when you are younger.  It's much harder to take a break and try to get back into the work force.

Alternatively, some find childbearing and rearing easier when they are younger. and feel they can still do all the things they want to do when they are older and their kids are older and more self-sufficient.  Some like the idea of having their kids grown up and fledged and then they can go back to whatever they put on hold to have their family.

Some have more help than others and can have their children while concurrently doing the things above.  They can raise their family while still experiencing and enjoying various aspects of life.

It isn't one size fits all.  And society doesn't demand that women fit into one mold the way that they used to.  Women have options.  We should be applauding women for finding their own way to have both a good life and still raise a family rather than judging them for not doing things the way other women do.  [/quote]

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