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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think marrying too early is a bad idea...you don't really know yourself in your 20s. Marrying in your 30s (women) and 30s early 40s (men) in DC area or any metropolitan area is fine. I didn't get married until 39...hubs is a few years older.[/quote]

A norm around getting married that late is one with fewer kids, a lot more infertility/birth defects, and kids barely meeting their grandparents. Both extended adolescence and this idea that you should have yourself entirely figured out before getting married, as opposed to continuing to do that work within your marriage, are choices that cultures make. And not good ones. If you don't have yourself together enough to make a commitment until you're much older than is optimal for having kids -- well, that happens sometimes, but it's something to aspire to. [/quote]

You seem obsessed with kids.  Many of us have a life and don’t define ourselves by our children or motherhood.  [/quote]

That's such a narcissistic frame to see this. "How you define yourself"? Think about what kind of culture you want to live in and work toward it. If that culture is one where people like you don't reproduce because it's so important that you spend your 20s and 30s figuring out who you are, then have at it. [/quote]

I mean your entire post had the word “kids” multiple times.  I’m just trying to explain to you that there are many women who value other things and experiences.  Some of us also value children, but we wouldn’t suggest someone gets married young because of kids.

Yes, I do support a culture where women have kids at an older age.  There’s a reason most wealthy, educated women have kids at an older age than poor, uneducated ones.  What’s the average age of a FTM in Silicon Valley versus one in small town, Arkansas?  I believe educated and a career are the ticket to freedom and equality for women.  Children get in the way of this so I absolutely suggest women wait until they are older to have kids.

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