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I was a DH who used to turn down quickies. It wasn't so much that I wanted a super special performance, it was more that I felt like it was pity and a sign that she'd prefer not to do it at all. On bad days, that felt rapey. On good days, it felt like an overly complicated version of masturbation. I was resentful that even the person who theoretically loved me best in the world found me so off-putting that she didn't even want to have sex with me. Intellectually, I knew things were a lot more nuanced than that. But these were the feelings I was having when I turned her down. [/quote]

Did you then complain how you never got any? Did you threaten open marriage if her sexual prowess did not meet your very particular standards? [/quote]

Haha, nope. I told her how quickies of the "don't worry about her" variety made me feel. (Also, not liking "just get it over with" isn't a "very particular standard." But I find declare open marriage guy annoying too.) [/quote]

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