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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote] Another thing I find odd is when people say "we had kids and then never had sex again." I think in many cases men get frustrated when sex doesn't return to its previous frequency quickly enough after children come along. Men seem to think things can be back to "normal" within a year or less. This reflects the very different levels of parenting responsibility men and women have, especially for young kids.

I dare men in this situation to spend a week doing as much caregiving as their wives do and then see what happens to their sex drives. For me, it didn't come back until kids were in school. That was how long it took before I started to feel like I could be an independent person again. Before that, I was so tired all the time from work and childcare, and my kids just seemed to need so much from me physically and emotionally. Sex was a really difficult thing to add to that mix. Once a month, if that. But once the kids were in school? Back to normal. Maybe even better than normal. It wasn't a blip but it wasn't the end of our sex life either. [/quote]

This is a bunch of bullshit. Ask any man who has multiple kids. [i]Somehow[/i], when she wants to get pregnant with kid #2/3/4, she doesn’t care about being “tired” and doing “more caregiving”. Nope, then it’s “get in here and f*ck me, buster!” In short, [b]when she [i]wants[/i] to have sex, she will find a way, and at other times she’s just making excuses[/b].[/quote]

This is funny because it’s true.[/quote]

Wait, you mean when a woman wants to have sex, she does, and when she doesn't want to have sex, she.... doesn't? What voodoo is this? Ladies be crazy.  :roll:

Wanting to have a kid is a valid reason to have sex. Being tired is a valid reason to not have sex. This isn't complicated.

After our first child was born, my husband thought our sex life would be the same as before, including the fact that before we had kids we regularly stayed up until midnight or later and still had sex before going to sleep. After we had a kid, it took him literally 2 years to figure out that if we didn't have sex before 9pm, it wasn't going to happen. It took him this long, despite me telling him, repeatedly, that I wanted to have sex I just couldn't stay up that late anymore because the kid was wearing me out.

Now we have sex at 8pm after the kid goes to bed, before we even eat dinner. But boy did it take him way too long to latch onto this idea. For months I almost felt as if he didn't want to have sex anymore because it was SO bizarre that he kept insisting on trying to have sex at like midnight when I was catatonic. I thought, what is going on? Can't he see I am literally asleep? What is going on?

Nope, turned out he did want to have sex. He's just really set in his ways, and doesn't always listen very well when I tell him things. Oh well, still love him.[/quote]

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