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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]" But for me there is also the extra element of being raised to think it’s rude to chat away with adults unless they talk to you."

Get therapy to unlearn this.  It's very backwards and regressive and bad for social skills (as your case proves) [/quote]

Instead, pp, why don’t you take some parenting classes. No one wants to hear your kids prattle on as much as you let them.[/quote]

NP. I think some adults get insecure when a kid is smarter than them in a conversation [/quote]

Bingo.  This is it.  A lot of adults (on this board) who never dealt with their insecurity issues and it comes up when they have to deal with particularly bright kids

(And no, I dont have kids and am not doing this with "my children".  Just an unbiased psychology observation)[/quote]

I haven’t read this entire thread, so perhaps my comment is out of context. But this thought is really deserving of its own thread, and has nothing to do with teaching children how to behave in a polite and respectful manner. Teachers would be able to do so much more with their day if we gave them a good foundation at home.

And yes, there are some parents intimidated by smart children, I’ve seen it and it is utterly ridiculous and pathetic. If my child shares something I didn’t know, or another kid is super smart, I tell them so! And encourage them to never be afraid of being smart, even if others don’t want to be. But that is totally different from interrupting and being a participant in adult conversations. By default every conversation with a child immediately is dominated to a pg rating. I love my child but I don’t expect everyone else to love her the way I do. The rules are for them, to empower and protect them.
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Yep. So many people have generalized jealous/envy issues, and they'll find almost anyway to justify it, up to and including justifying telling a little child "No one is interested in you and no one cares what you think."  As absurd as it may seem to be jealous of a child, these people feel a deep sense of shame (because they know they're a little "off"- as anyone is who feels anger and resentment at a cute little kid babbling about a cat or whatever) and deep insecurity issues- so it can manifest towards literally anyone.  Not to mention, successful/bright kids often grow up to be successful/bright adults.

That little girl that's always chattering away to everyone?  Probably will go on to be fairly popular in school and know everyone. She's already got better social skills than the majority of people on this board ever will- and it will only get better as they age.  Now, a lot of these envious types have un-dealt with trauma from feeling excluded and "less than" in middle school, high school, college, adulthood, etc.  Instead of getting therapy or working through it healthy, they're just going through life with that trauma, throwing it at everyone else. And while the socially skilled, most popular woman at work won't tolerate any of their BS, and would surely smush them under their shoe like a bug, a child is an easy target, way more vulnerable.  So the losers with unaddressed trauma can feel that they successfully defeated a mean popular girl, even if it's really a sweet child.  Pathologically sad and stupid.[/quote]

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