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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is not a knock on moms  that choose to stay home of their own volition.

I'm talking about guys who marry a woman with a career.  Guys that get with awoman knowing her career is important to her, that she spent years getting into her position, same as he did,  that just assume she'll stay home because he doesn't like  daycare or his mom stayed home, and his brother's wife stays home, or because he makes money?

Why is it overwhelmingly the woman who is expected to sacrifice her career ,even if it's not what she wants.

To be fair, I now one dad who altered his career to stay home when his kids were small instead of ecpexting his wife, too, but why is this so rare?[/quote]

As long as SO many women model this "lifestyle" for future generations, it will be hard to change.

There are so many wealthy women on this forum who won't OWN this part of the legacy they are leaving.

It is one thing before your kids start school. It is quite another when your kids are in middle school and high school. 
Why is it okay that someone pays for your food and housing, like they do for their children?

The height of irony are the stay at home moms who complain that their husbands don't do enough around the house. How much do you do around his office?

This is coming from a woman, who works outside the home and is a good mom also. [/quote]

Your bias against sahm is strong. It's not for you. Fine. When you talk about the dh buying the food, etc as if she's a kid, the critical element you are missing is HER facilitation of HIS success.[/quote]

Or so you tell yourself.

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If men were required to do even 50% of the child related work, they're careers would surely suffer. Someone posted about how even women who work outside the home are expected to do the majority of the child related duties. It's true. I am happy to support my dh by caring for the family and household so he can focus on his career. I married someone who actually loves and values me and what I do. I had a career for 20 years before I had children. We planned for me to sah. We lived off of one salary for many, many years. My income was largely saved and invested and continues to generate interest. I know my kids are being cared for well because I am the one doing it. My dh considers his money our money and I manage the finances. [/quote]

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