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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just wanted to give a point of view here. I am a man and started to have sexual feelings for men a couple of years after I met my wife. I am by far way more attracted to women but still find men attractive. Think 80/20 women to men for attraction.

I started to reveal this to my wife about 5 years ago. She was very open and accepting. We started to explore together and we've had "guests" a couple of times.  It's a ton of fun for everyone as long as everyone is safe. My wife knows that I have no intention of leaving and am committed as ever to our family with our 2 children. We never did anything unless we were on really strong footing and it definitely has brought us closer as there are no secrets. I am a very loyal guy and have never cheated on any relationship and she knows this.

Just wanted to let you know that there are possible ways forward that are positive and can be beneficial. I know that this doesn't address your trans experience but hope it can be better than the negativity on this board. [/quote]

This would be a total and complete dealbreaker for me. And while I appreciate the perspective OP in no way should feel that she needs to explore this as an alternative.[/quote]

I'm the pp. Totally understand that it's not for everyone and had no intention of trying to persuade op. Just thought that there is a lot of negativity and close mindedness so far and that there are some perspectives that can be positive. [/quote]

It's not close-mindedness.  Quit shaming.  Just like some people are born homosexual or trans, many others are born heterosexual. It's a spectrum.

Not wanting to watch your husband have gay sex or be in a threesome with him and another man is NOT close-mindness. It is not some people's persuasion.  Period.[/quote]

Hum new PP here. You are the shaming/agressive open? Man above was sharing a very interesting perspective ( i am Not OP but a woman Also wondering About the possibility of my DH being 80/20 and not 100% closeted homosexual instead). He was not pushing for anything, just sharing that it is possible that Op’ s husband is saying the truth, and that he is living proof that men can be bisexual and still be very attracted to their wives. I think that is really worth sharing (thanks for doing so)[/quote]

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