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[quote=Anonymous]I'm early 40s (woman) and recently divorced with two kids.
What surprises me is that you don't have 50/50 custody. Did you just give her more time?

My ex has the same amount of wealth as before because he made me wait to go back to work before he would amicably divorce. I could have done it the other way, but it would have been worse for my kids. So, he still has as much money as before. He is not supporting two households on one income (which I could have insisted upon but the divorce would have been really nasty). I make too much money while working to get alimony. We are doing 50/50 custody.

I think you need to actually be divorced before even considering dating. Also think about if you want random hookups, a long-term hookup, or a possible LTR.

I have found that I am overloaded with men on apps. It is a pleasant shock. Some want hookups. Some want relationships. I think you need to know what you are looking for upfront. That helps a lot.

You will also be overwhelmed most likely by people wanting to meet you on apps. Apps have really made dating much easier.

I do not want to get married again or have more kids. I would date someone with kids but prefer a man who does not have kids and does not want any at this point in his life simply because it is easier for me. But I would be open to someone with kids as well.

I have been upfront that I want something with potential to be long-term, but I do not want more kids. I am unlikely to ever remarry. I am upfront about the limited amount of time I have as well because of my kids.

A big red flag for me is a man who did not have more time with his kids and was still supporting his ex-wife because she does not work. It would bother me personally even though I never plan to mix finances with a man ever again. 
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