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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I mean, you'll find men who are into all sorts of things, but [b]99% of the men I know care only how pretty women are. [/b]

Lose some weight, put on lipstick and eyeliner and make your hair look cared for in some way, and you'll do better in the dating market than someone earning 6 figures who doesn't. [/quote]

Really, are you serious?

So,  highly educated men like surgeons, professors, attorneys, etc, would rather date pretty women than highly educated women with a 6 figure salary?

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They're largely dating and marrying highly educated women with 6 figure salaries who are also pretty. It's called assortative mating and it is more engrained now than it ever has been. It's part of why class lines have grown deeper and harder to cross. There are exceptions, but the surgeons, professors, attorneys, etc. are largely dating women like them. They're marrying (pretty! that still matters) women they met in school, at professional events, etc. Sure, there are some that are marrying the secretary, but that is increasingly uncommon. So will the pretty woman with a GED who tries may do better than an educated, obese slob, there are TONS of good looking women who tick all of the attractive boxes. [/quote]

I largely agree with this. I went to a top 3 law school and am about ten years out. About 1/3 to 1/2 of my classmates married another classmate. Although I do not know of more than 1-2 female classmates who have become SAHMs, many of them did stints in biglaw and then left for in house/gov't/nonprofit sector jobs that offer much better work life balance so that they can be the primary caretakers, while many of my male classmates are now biglaw partners (some of my female classmates are too, but at a much, much lower proportion). But this PP is right, pretty definitely still matters. My female classmates who made an effort with their appearance (slim, well dressed, at least some attention to makeup/hair) were definitely widely sought after by the most successful guys in my class. [/quote]

The stats bear this out. DCUM has a weird male contingent that is like, "I don't care if she comes from a family of three headed monkeys, is a paranoid Schizophrenic with 6 kids by 6 dads with a 6th grade education and a part time interest in meth. IS SHE HOT? Is she thin and would I want to bone that bod? That's all that matters!" By and large, no, that is not how people date or marry. [/quote]

+1. Funny too, pp! Out of all my friends and DH's friends, I know exactly one college educated male who married a woman who didn't graduate from college. But even this woman has a great career in sales and earns a good living. The odd thing is that both of her parents are college graduates. Most of the men I know need a woman to at least be attractive enough *to them*, but once they hit that mark then they're just looking at compatibility. It's ridiculous to think that men just marry the hottest woman they can get. We also know lots of successful men who married successful women who aren't very pretty, but they're compatible. Most guys are looking to marry someone who they think will be a good partner and mother to their future children, not the hottest beach bod they can score.[/quote]

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