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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a child who still accidents past the age of 6.  First, while a small percentage, this issue is more common than you realize.  So the posters who are being rude have no idea.  The mom gave a warning, so clearly she is aware.  We have taken my child to many specialists, who do not want her back in pullups.  It is harder to have the awareness of being wet or dry when in a pull up.  There are entire clinics at some of the big hospitals dedicated to this exact issue.  For some children, the issue does not resolve until puberty, as a pp said.  The child did not say anything because they were either too embarrassed ( a common reaction for kids like this) or with small accidents they really are sometimes unaware (neurologically the need to go and fact they went does not always register- also not uncommon for someone who has accidents past age 5).

As a parent of a child like this, I probably would not have started a pod without giving the host mom more guidance.  However, shaming the child or talking to the parent like they have no idea is not right either.  Your options, OP, are you can either say nothing, but since you are starting a pod this may happen again.  Or, you can say "Larla had an accident our house the other day.  I know you had mentioned this happens sometimes.  Since we will be spending a lot of time together in this Pod, do you have any suggestions of what I can do help?  I am happy to give bathroom reminders every so often or keep a change of clothes for her at our house."  Both the girl and the mom are probably already feeling badly about this issue in general.

I want to emphasize- This issue is not one of bad parenting or a kid who is "not potty trained" or being bad.  More kids than you realize really do have this issue.  I have literally cried over this with my child and done everything I possibly can, but I still have a 9 year old with accidents.  [/quote]

I'd be ok if the parents were taking steps with Drs, but this doesn't seem to be the case. I think the way you  suggest bringing it up works.  It does  have to be brought  up. It's  either a medical  issue that  needs to be addressed,  or a psychological issue  that  also needs to be addressed,  or even an abuse issue that needs to be looked into ( no PP, I am not insinuating that your daughter has an abuse issue.)

Regardless,  let's not tiptoe around it without problem solving.  And no, we don't ever need to enbarrass the child, but let's  get this worked on. [/quote]

I highly doubt it that it’s being withheld from the doctor.  Ime, every parent and child who deal with late accidents want it resolved, but there are no answers.[/quote]

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