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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm not a complete idiot though I feel like one now. I know better than to let my kid have braids to match her friend. Could I do french braids instead and put beads in her hair that way? I'm so lost on this. I am an immigrant, sorry for not understanding. I am trying.[/quote]

Every troll claims to be an immigrant.[/quote]

I am not OP, but I am also an immigrant trying to understand. Would it be ok to say to a black kid not to do something because it is a “white thing”. I understand the debate for older kids or adults. But don’t we want to foster real empathy and friendship between kids of different backgrounds?[/quote]

No. One of the reasons why putting a white child in box braids is inappropriate has to do with the history around white majority culture policing Black women's hair. If something is "ghetto" when a Black child does it, but "cute" when a white child does it, then it is not something the white child should be doing. [/quote]

I'm curious if you are black?
I'm one of the black moms above who thinks it's fine.
Little black girls in braids is not "ghetto."[/quote]

It isn’t ghetto, but people treat it like it is. In fact, there are lots of schools —public, charter, and private— that do not allow little black girls to wear cornrows and beads. Our hair is so policed, but Kylie and Bo are celebrated for the same styles.[/quote]

I'm shocked that a public school in the US could have such a rule without being sued for the blatant racism. I do agree that black people's hair is policed but I don't think the answer is to then shame anyone else who wants similar hair styles. Maybe it would feel good (what's good for the goose is good for the gander, and all that) but it doesn't ultimately help the goal of having our hair be considered part of the mainstream, not as 'other' or 'unprofessional.' In fact, girls like OP's daughter is a way to get to that goal.[/quote]

So if white people start doing it, it will become acceptable? That’s what it will take? It is not good enough if only black people do it? That’s what I am hearing.[/quote]

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