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My high schooler is SO RELIEVED and HAPPY that it's going to be all distance learning.

My elementary schooler as well, come to think of it.

They both did very well with distance learning this spring.[/quote]

That seems to be rather irrelevant information.  [/quote]

Seriously, not constructive at all.[/quote]

I am making the point that distance learning works for some kids. And not very subtly, I am making the point to please get over yourselves! We are in a pandemic. DCUM can continue to wring its hands, vituperate against schools, etc, but we'll still have distance learning anyway.

So... why not make the best of it? If you go in certain that the school year is going to be terrible, it will be, particularly with a teen. If you do your best to find something positive about it, it won't be that bad.

If OP is concerned about her teen's mental health, there are videoconferences available with a pediatrician, then a psychologist or therapist.

I sound mean, but please remember we're not sending our kids to be killed in Vietnam, we're not experiencing wartime starvation, we're not migrants, we get to sit at home with our internet and online deliveries. Get a grip.
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I agree with this. I also can't understand why some kids seem to be crushed by this experience. Help them see that it's going to be okay. Help them make the most of it. Come up with a better plan than the one you've got going if it's not working. I guess that's what the OP is asking for help with, but I balk at the idea that DL is causing such anguish. It's attitude and personality. Resilience, grit, fortitude, perseverance -- all those things we keep talking about. This is it, folks. Explain to your kids that this is just the type of occasion you were talking about all those years when you said they needed to have these qualities in their back pocket.[/quote]

I come from a family of exiled war refugees and I think both these PPs sound like dim, nasty idiots with weak emotional connections to their kids.

OP, it is really hard to get good mental health help right now. I know this is unconventional and a lot more work for you, but I would consider getting a pet and having the pet be the responsibility of your child. Get a screening too but understand that for borderline depression the video sessions often don't do much. [/quote]

Same. One side of my family were practically starved to death, shot at with machine guns and watched friends and relatives die. I'm not a dim, nasty idiot. I have strong connections to my kids -- which is why they're doing fine during this crisis.

It's a crisis. Stop complaining about how hard it is for your DC to not hang out with friends and get life their way right now. It's a stupid and spoiled response to a crisis, and it's adversely affecting your children's ability to weather this successfully.[/quote]

I flat out don't believe you have a remotely good connection to your kids. I don't think you even know what that means. [/quote]

LOL how in the world would you know? We are a close and loving family. We've been through a lot together, so we have some reference points for dealing with this crisis, like "We've been through X, Y and Z and we can make it through this, too" etc. We acknowledge how difficult this is for everyone. We don't wallow in it.[/quote]

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