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[quote=Anonymous]I’m about to get divorced and have children who are almost teenagers. I can think of several reasons why my STBX would do this. For years now he has spent very little time with our kids. As a result, they don’t feel very comfortable around him. They wouldn’t want to go to dinner with him without my going too. I’ve done everything I can to promote his having his own relationships with the kids, independent of me, but it’s like he and they speak different languages. He just accepts that they don’t want to do anything with him any more, and that allows him to justify not spending time with them. It’s a viscous cycle I’ve been unable to break. Also, one of our kids has special needs and poor emotional regulation. This child can be a lot to handle. I can see STBX delaying having a SO meet our kids as long as possible, due to not wanting to scare off SO. Finally, a big part of why we’re divorcing is that STBX wants life to be more fun and wants to party with younger people instead of acting like a middle-aged family man. I don’t think he would want to mix his “dad life” with his “fun life.” It would be a hell of a lot easier to blame his nasty ex than to tell the truth, which would make him look bad.[/quote]

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