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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This rigidity is damaging to your children. I had a mom like you. I’ve been working on this shit for years in therapy and I still struggle with food, making decisions, keeping my own perfectionism under control.

You asked how others relaxed but your responses indicate that you do not seriously want to change.

I recommend taking everyone out in nature & letting them get muddy and eat horrible gas station ice cream bars on the drive home. [/quote]

Op the rigidity is actually damaging to you too. I beg you to try to get some meds to help and yes I think you could start with medicinal marijuana in daily microdose edibles if you are worried about pharma. But honestly that might not do it and it's hard to find a good therapist in this area that will work with you on that. Which is sad. 
I think it's easy to jump on OP as smug and sanctimonious , someone we over to see fall off the pedestal, but I actually feel bad for her. It does also sound like crippling anxiety for me with some obsessive tendencies and she is living in a hell of her own making that she literally can't stop making without serious intervention.  I say please try meds for 1 year. Just one, as it can take some trial and error to find what is right. CBT too. You get one life and it sounds like you have the resources to throw at this problem to make it one that you feel content living or at least some peace. Because you don't have that now and you certainly won't if you drive your adult kids away.[/quote]

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