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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have been following this thread with interest and I appreciate OP putting his thoughts/feelings out there and working on himself etc

I am in a similar position but a woman with 3 kids to raise.  My divorce is 3 years out and I am doing well in many areas of my life … but romance, not so much.
I went on a date last Friday and the guy was all into me and then we texted but it slowed down from his end.  [b]I don't know why it affects me so much and I cannot just be more relaxed about it. [/b] [/quote]

NP here.  Because you are human!  I think it's actual a normal human response to like someone and then feel a little sad if they show interest in you and then kind of disappear.  I'm not sure if this is a millennial contribution or just a result of internet/online/virtual life, but the notion that we're all supposed to be automatons without feelings and kind of cool with just sort of superficial on again/off again communication is ridiculous.

My advice to you is to forget him.  You don't necessarily need for someone to text you a lot, but you should look for consistency.  If someone texts a lot and then kind of fades away and then texts a lot and then fades away, you need to cut him off.  He's only going to end up hurting you.  He's either emotionally unavailable or using you as kind of a back burner while pursuing someone for whom he has feelings but isn't confident likes him back.  Don't let a guy use you for validation only to leave you feeling unvalidated.

Side note: he's probably being used by someone as a back burner as well, which is why he is stringing you along.[/quote]

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