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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I relate to that SIL too.

When I have shown or shared "not happy" emotions to my family, excluding my spouse, I was usually told to get over it, that whatever I was experiencing was not a problem, or that I was the only one with problems.

So, that leads to me believing I can only show "happy" emotions to my family. Sometimes I was even made fun of or criticized for sharing. So, at this point, I only show any disappoinment to my spouse or to closer friends.

It is telling OP's SIL shared some negative emotions during a time of weakness (drunk) and was horrified later on and denied she shared. That sounds like me, because I know I shouldn't share almost *anything* with family members, because if certain people find out it will be stored in the memory banks and trotted out later to use as criticism or to make fun of me.

OP, consider this. "Happiness" is quite possibly your SILs defense 
 mechanism against her family.[/quote]

God, that is so f-ing sad.  Your family sucks.[/quote]

My MIL believes that any complaining about your kids ever means that you are a bad mother and probably mentally ill.  She claims that raising her children never brought her anything but joy!  LOL.[/quote]

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