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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The SIL should not be criticized for not confiding in Op. She is a SIL. That's a relationship that needs to last a lifetime. It's a slippery slope if she shares too much. SIL has other friends for that.

And it interferes with the brother-sister relationship. That's not a nice thing to do. [/quote]

Exactly! If I tell something related to family dynamics to a trusted friend:
A) They are more objective 
B) They won't possibly insert themselves or talk about it with others in the name of "helping" 
C) They won't long-term remember/hold a grudge against me for creating discord or the offending party for hurting me

Plus I agree that OP sounds kind of nosy/judgemental...[/quote]

Exactly.

My SIL wants me to be "authentic" but doesn't bwant to hear anything "sad." At the same time I know she is a gossip, who will.share "authentic but not sad" things with a gossipy aunt. And so on.

It's much easier to share complex emotions with friends than with an extended gossipy, dsyfunctional family. And it's easier to have a relationship with your family as well.[/quote]

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