Reply to Disclosing abortion to past boyfriend

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Disclosing abortion to past boyfriend "

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is the OP. Thanks for those that have responded and been kind. For that that haven't been, I hope that you never experience something that haunts you like this has haunted me. It's not fun.

...

Re: does my husband know. I disclosed that I had an abortion when I was pregnant with our first child. I did not tell him that I hadn't disclosed it to the boyfriend. He is aware that I have sought therapy in the past and that I went through difficult times related to that relationship. [b]He made me feel like dirt for having an abortion [/b]and said that I should have told him before we got married.

[/quote]

WHOAH. Talk about burying the lede. The problem isn't the abortion you had 20 years ago. The problem is that your husband thought it was okay to make his pregnant wife "feel like dirt" about it, and that you don't see that's a problem.

Use your counseling dollars to deal with this, not the long-past abortion that's become the focal point of your unhappiness.[/quote]

This. Your husband is a jerk, you are generally unhappy and how you are fantasizing about how your life might have turned out better if you had married the old boyfriend. Your issues aren’t about the abortion - I think they are about thinking your life would be better if you were married to your old boyfriend rather than your current husband. Dredging this up with your old boyfriend will accomplish nothing except make him feel bad and make you feel worse.

I agree with the previous advice - I really do think you need a new and current therapist to work through these issues. Dealing with your current issues rather than putting the blame for why you are unhappy on the wrong place has more potential to helping you than this really (really) bad idea of using this to reconnect with your old boyfriend.

Good luck. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics