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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]PP here. It is not apples to oranges. You may not have read my earlier post. I am not dating men in their 40s with kids. I am dating men in their 30s never married, no kids. I am early 40s. I presume single age 30-39 would be the exact same pool a 28-year-old would be looking in. If I have good luck, logic states she should have better luck with the same pool of men. Yes, I have kids. She should not be looking at men in their 20s.[/quote]

You say you are “dating men in their 30s never married, no kids.” Are you dating multiple men at the same time in NSA or FWB situations? If so, your story makes sense. The post-divorce world can be hard, and it is nice to see you have found what makes you happy.
  
However, most single, childless men in their 30s are not looking to settle down with an older woman (e.g., a woman in her 40s) with kids, especially if they want children that share their biology.

Your statement that if you have “good luck” in your dating situation, then she (a 28 year-old single mother of three) would have good luck dating single, childless men in their 30s starkly contrasts the dating environment that exists in NoVA and much of the rest of the US. 
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I am not sleeping with anyone. I am dating them. All of them are mid to late 30s. I have turned down early 30s.
My age does not seem to be a problem. My kids do not seem to be a problem. I am early 40s. She is late 20s. She is younger and should not have a problem.

Also, I am not talking about marriage. I am talking about dating. Dating can lead to marriage--or not.

She should not leave her spouse in the hope of marrying someone else. She should only leave her spouse if she does not want to be in her marriage...another man or not.
No one should be leaving a marriage to settle down with someone else. Dating, fine, but people have to accept they could be single forever.

That is fine with me. I am fine with dating for fun that leads to an LTR or not.

The idea that she can't attract men in their 30s because she has kids (and is only 28!) is crazy. She should have more options than I have. I am in NoVA.
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