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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]This alone tells me I should stick to the never-married guys. Thanks for confirming that.[/quote]

You are welcome.  BTW - I do not want you and is likely most other divorced guys would pass as well.

In every post so far you have focused on how many men are interested in you (e.g., they are lining up, you would fare better than most divorced men, etc.)  Self-centeredness is very unattractive, for both men and women.

[quote]She would be an idiot to tell her husband she is interested in dating others. That is dumb. She needs to decide if she wants to be married or divorced.[/quote]

The OP asked specifically about discussing dating other men with her husband.  If she is seriously considering do so, she should talk to her DH so that he can consider his role in their marriage.

It would be detestable for her to makes plans to date (or to divorce) without giving him the basic kindness of honesty, and hiding her plans from him sends a message to her children that is okay to hide important feelings from someone you claim to love.

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I was not being self-centered. I am stating facts. I only said that because someone said she would not be popular on a dating app at 28 with kids. They are dead wrong. If I do not have issues, neither would she. It is not 1959. I literally have more options than I did without kids in my 20s. A lot of this is dating apps are easy. Some of it is being attractive. I just can't stand when people assume women are "old" or not desirable in their late 20s and early 30s. That was the insinuation here. That is why I spoke up. I am sick of people acting this way about women. That attitude is how I got into a bad marriage to begin with and kept me there way too long. Women should not stay only because they are afraid no one would date them.

And frankly, if they want to date other people, they should not stay married. I do not think there should be any conversation with her husband--she should make a decision. She either wants to be married or wants to date. If she wants to date, then she should divorce. Having such a conversation is just a path toward destroying the marriage. She needs to make a decision first. No man wants to hear this from his wife. [/quote][/quote]

It is easier now because dating apps weren't prevalent when you were in your 20s. And most 40 yr old men have kids, so won't be scared off. But a man in his 20s is likely not going to be interested in an acme-instant family 3 three young kids if they want their own kids, especially a lot of them. I am part of a FB group for young widows and I see this all the time--the 20-somethings with kids are having a lot of trouble finding matches.  I don't know why you can't understand that your situation is an apple and hers is an orange...

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PP here. It is not apples to oranges. You may not have read my earlier post. I am not dating men in their 40s with kids. I am dating men in their 30s never married, no kids. I am early 40s. I presume single age 30-39 would be the exact same pool a 28-year-old would be looking in. If I have good luck, logic states she should have better luck with the same pool of men. Yes, I have kids. She should not be looking at men in their 20s.[/quote]

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