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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Agree that this is not your information to share. I also think that you were nosy for snooping around in their personal business like that.

[b]I would wonder about a person who purposely misled others into believing that they actually owned a property that they did not own, though[/b].  Especially, if they are not even married to their SO.  Does the person understand that their name is not on the title and that they have no legal claim to the property?  If not, are they being duped into paying the mortgage on a property that they do not own and have no legal claim to.  That, right there, would be more of a worry to me than if they had misrepresented their home purchase in order to get housewarming gifts or even just to impress others.

It would be like me inviting family members to a college graduation party....even though I hadn't actually graduated from college or telling people that I had gotten married even if I hadn't really done so.[/quote]
It would be misleading if the person claimed to own it, and was really renting. This isn't that.[/quote]

I mean it's misleading because they may be going in for half of the mortgage but they still do not actually own the property. "My boyfriend let's me live in his house in exchange for me paying half of the mortgage" is not the same thing as "I own this property".  If my friend was also putting her own money into fixing up/maintaining a property that she had no ownership rights to then I would be a bit concerned for her.  Acting "like" and owner doesn't make you an owner.[/quote]

It seems like a REALLY weird line to draw with a friend.  I don't GAF what their personal arrangements are.  [/quote]

[b]Why[/b] lie about something that other people, though?  [b]Why[/b] purposely tell your family/friends that you bought a house when you did not.  That would be like your boyfriend allowing you to drive one of his cars and you saying "Look everyone!  I bought a car!!"  [b]Why[/b] go out of your way to present yourself in a way that is not true?  I think it's the deliberate deception that is concerning.

Back when dh and I were living together people often assumed that we were a married couple.  We weren't intentionally telling people that we were married and if someone asked if we were married or mentioned that they thought that we were married we would quickly set the record straight.

[b]Why[/b] pretend to be something your not?  I just don't understand the reasoning I guess.[/quote]

And WHY are you so fixated on this??

I'm guessing I know the WHY they're telling people they bought the house -- because there are assh0le people like you in every family that believe that they are morally, ethically & financially superior to them in every single way and they've never let an opportunity pass to let them forget it.

Im guessing I also know the WHY they're pretending they're something they're not -- see the answer to the previous "WHY".

You are the assh0le every single time in these scenarios OP... every single time and you sound like an absolutely bitter, MISERABLE person who uses others shortcomings against them.

Your wretched sanctimonious attitude is disgusting and out of the two of you, I have *far* less respect for you than your relative, the new home owner.

I hope they're very happy in their new home and I also pray that they find this thread, so they know what a horrible human being you are.

You're completely lacking in moral fiber, decency and graciousness and not someone I'd ever want around me or my family.

Leave this relative with their dignity and leave their lives too.
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First off, I am NOT the Op.  If I was the Op I would not be pretending to be somebody else. Not my style.  Although someone like yourself thinks that it's perfectly normal to pretend that you are something/someone other than you truly are.

My guess is that the Op had his/her reasons for looking this relative's info  up. Was it sort of intrusive of Op to do that even though this is all public information - yes.  And, if Op did this just to find a reason to gossip and put this relative down, then Op truly sucks.  If, however, Op checked this out because this particular relative has a history of not being completely upfront/honest about things and Op had a hinky feeling about this...then, yeah, I can see why Op might have checked the records.

Now the question as many of us (me included) have pointed out in other posts - how accurate are those records?  Does Op's online check guarantee that her relative does not own the property? That is not clear.  It is possible, though not very likely, that the relative actually does own the property but is simply not listed as an owner in the online property search.

Op should can file that info in the back of her mind but no way should she go around gossiping about this - UNLESS that relative is trying to portray herself as more financially secure than she really is in an attempt to trick other people.  More than likely, even if the relative is lying, it is not being done for nefarious purposes.[/quote]

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