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[quote=Anonymous]OP here, wow most of y'all are judgy! My apologies for the long paragraph and any typos- I typed the post late at night using my phone and in the dark. My BF is great. But he's also financially unstable. His ex stole a ton of money from him when she left, and he is/was asleep at the wheel with that sort of thing- he doesn't ever look at his bank account, gets overdraft fees, etc. He says his wife "handled" all that. I guess that's the main thing I question, because all he seems to know how to do, and he admits this, is do construction. Nothing about running a household or bills, accounts, anything. 
  I did not marry my ex husband for money, he had nothing when we married. I have an advanced degree- higher than college. I am from the rural South and my ex husband and I agreed I would be a housewife. I took care of family members who were sick for many years as one of my primary roles. So I haven't sat around and eaten bon bons.  
 Most of my boyfriend's friends were his wife's family- they lived a very insular life, never hanging out with anyone different, everyone they knew was their cousin, or their cousin's cousin, friend, etc. When they separated, he pretty much left most of that life behind. Also he works inside the Beltway, hence why he exists mostly in "my" world. I stated I have no interest in camping or motorcycles because I don't- I have never been exposed to either, but I said I would try both for him. 
  He is very hard worker, caring and giving. We get along great. Sex is phenomenal. I am in love with him or I wouldn't have stuck around. But I'm not a young bride, I know how romances can end, and on top of that I'm a very sensible and pragmatic person and I know that sometimes love isn't enough. And yes, I would like to continue to be a SAHM mom because being a housewife/caregiver/mother is all I have ever known or done, despite my education. He makes good money but is asleep at the wheel financially. I have to go into his accounts and see if his ex has stolen any more money recently, why he got an overdraft fee, etc because he doesn't know how to get on the computer to do these things. That's what I'm wondering- is getting along and having a good time and being compatible enough? Can he learn to handle his own accounts and take charge financially? Just questions I have because I have never been with anyone like him.  Thanks-[/quote]

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