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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op - you don't say if you work, but you have a newborn so you are on maternity leave.  Whether or not there was a pandemic, you were going to be stuck at home.  And at least your DH is ostensibly teleworking so he can help out a bit more.  And with a newborn, you would't be going to crowded places anyway.  You would be doing...things you can do now, like neighborhood walks, etc.  I am not saying your situation is not hard.  It is.  But I think you are pretty much in a phase of life that sucks pandemic or not. [/quote]

Op here - dh is home but in the office from 7am to 8pm on calls and working. He comes out for 10 or 15 minutes at a time but that’s about it. Otherwise it’s me. [b]I typically am very out and about even with a newborn. For the first 4 weeks of the baby’s life we had already gone to the zoo, brunch, visited with friends and went on a 7 hour road trip.[/b] [/quote]

You may think this is something to be proud of, but it’s not. Nothing sadder than a baby who is dragged everywhere because the mom wants to make a big show of being “out and about”. I know people who brag that they went out to lunch or Target on their way home from the hospital. WTF![/quote]

[b]Op here - no I just didn’t change my life when we had the new baby. [/b]We always did these things with the older kids. I didn’t want to completely upend their lives with the new baby being here. Thankfully I had a very uneventful delivery and recovery so I could do these things early on. It’s harder to do once the baby gets into a set nap schedule and whatnot. [/quote]

[b]Did you ever think that maybe you SHOULD change your life when you have a new baby?[/b] Maybe that’s why you’re on here talking about how this has been the worst month of your life...

After my babies were born I mostly stayed home the first month except for walks. It was a peaceful transition and gave me time to heal and let my children get used to a new baby with lots of attention. Aside from avoiding neighborhood playgrounds and other people, it wasn’t that different than quarantine. Spending lots of time close to home, lots of snuggles with my older child and baby, etc. It was wonderful.

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Agree, it’s the “out and about” people who are having the toughest time with this because they don’t know how to relax. They always have to be doing something and using some crutch to keep their kids occupied and posting about it on FB and IG. When all of the crutches are taken away, they don’t actually know how to deal with their kids one-on-one.[/quote]

It’s lazy people’s time to shine!!! Congrats![/quote]

Nah, it’s not lazy to spend time at home with your kids playing, reading, cooking, gardening, doing household tasks together.

What’s lazy in my view is carting your kids around from activity to activity so that someone can entertain them while you stare at your phone.[/quote]

You’re cooking and gardening with a newborn and two toddlers? No, you’re no. Stop getting on OP’s case.

Some people enjoy visiting the zoo, aquarium, teaching their kids about art and history. There’s more to life than what’s inside your own home.[/quote]

Wait, you can’t cook or garden at home with a newborn and two toddlers, but you *can* go to the zoo and brunch? 😂 [/quote]

Yes, you absolutely can go to the zoo and brunch with a newborn and two toddlers....and they won't get burnt or dig up what you just did![/quote]

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