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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I have three kids and have never spanked.  This is one area where the research is unanimous - spanking hurts more than it helps.

That said, I think the fact that your daughter called you to complain, and that you listened to your ex’s side of the story - as though he were your daughter’s sibling — says a lot about your own failings as a human being and as a parent.

Whether you like your ex or not, he is an adult who is parenting a child.  He has as much right as you to parent his daughter. Your daughter was disrespectful to him and did something dangerous, and your only response is to focus on his response?

You are not being a parent here.  You are being a controlling ex-wife who is being disrespectful to your ex-husband and undermining his relationship with his daughter.

I agree that spanking is not the best response, but perhaps that’s the best way your husband knew to get her attention.  Your post was focused on making your ex wrong and getting people to agree with you that he should be labeled a bad parent. Most people disagree with you, because your post makes it clear that you are immature and controlling.

You need to figure out how to grow up and co-parent respectfully.  Your daughter is only going to get more out-of-control given the way you are parenting. Get some help as a family.  Especially get help on parenting.  [/quote]
I don’t think that’s fair. OP did say she got his side and is understandably upset by his reaction and is posting this part. She clearly believes her daughter did something dangerous and wrong. Making this about disliking her ex is projection. I don’t see anything controlling about objecting to physical punishment.[/quote]

No, it’s not projection.  You just can’t read.  Try reading OP’s post again. [/quote]

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