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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=soexcited123][quote=Anonymous][quote=soexcited123][quote=Anonymous]When my mom calls I usually leave the room unless I'm in the middle of a project that can only be done in that room (like if I'm cooking I stay in the kitchen). I figure my wife will find it easier to read, watch TV, listen to music, whatever else she was doing. If my mom called with a question that involves my my wife (like when we're free to get together) or something else my wife needs to know about right away, I'll come back out and tell her.

My wife calls her parents almost every day when walking to the metro. If I'm ready at the same time we'll both be there when she calls; if we walk separately I don't care if she talks to her parents without me. I trust her. If I'm bugging her and she wants to tell her parents that, it's ok with me, though I don't think that's what they spend most of their time discussing! Besides, if my wife were keeping a big secret from me, I doubt she'd tell her parents about it. [/quote]

I guess it's a worry that my husband is confiding in his mom about an issue we are having in our marriage and I would rather him go to me about it or an unbiased party such as a counselor. I like to keep any issues between us. Yes before anyone asks I apply the same rule for myself as well. I don't confide in my parents or ask for advice about issues in our marriage[/quote]

As a former MIL (my son has been divorced for five years) I can tell you what they are talking about:  You.

You might think this is inappropriate or whatever but you know why he's doing it.  There are issues in the marriage and much as you would wish he would just address them with you he has decided to confide in his mother and get counsel from her.

So, there you go.  Good luck.[/quote]

Also, I forgot to add you would sit there bad mouthing your DIL. How nice. Why didn't you tell your son he should be working it out with his wife. I can't believe you really think its acceptable for a grown man to ryn to mommy when he is having marital issues. Again what if his wife wishes to keep those issues private. Of course you are going to be biased towards your own son. How is that helpful for a marriage to go to a biased party. I am truly shocked how many people on here thinks its ok to run to parents when you're upset with your spouse.[/quote]

Blame me if you want but my ex DIL was almost as nuts as you are.  My son waited way too long to divorce her.  He did not call me much when they were married, more towards the end.  His wife would literally stand in the doorway, arms folded, bitch look on her face, whenever he did try to have a normal mom-son conversation with me on the phone.  Sound familiar?  After the divorce we talked a lot more.  He is now happier than he has been in many years, having a very nice life.  So I know there is hope for your husband.  There's hope for you too if you can just get off his back and get some therapy.[/quote]

It seems like something is missing to the story here. In order for you to know your ex-DIL did those things your son would have to be telling you meaning he was going to you about their marital issues. You weren't there are the time in the marriage so you can't necessarily lie the blame solely on your ex-DIL. Somehow I have an inkling she adopted that attitude because your son was already going to you about their marital problems but you're leaving that out of the story. Somehow I have a feeling it wasn't just a simple mother son convo about what is going on in his life. Of course your son isn't going to tell you about the times he messed up in the marriage. Can't stand parents who automatically think their precious son is automatically 100% innocent and the evil bad DIL is stealing my baby boy and she is 100% to blame. That story is as old as time. [/quote]

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